In order to find the perfect partner, you first need to know who the perfect girl is. More importantly, you need to answer, what qualities does “The One” possess? While physical attractiveness tends to dominate the media, what we really need to focus on is non-physical qualities. By focusing on non-physical qualities, this will allow us to find the girl that will allow for the greatest long-term mutual benefit instead of one night of fun.
Creating a List of Qualities
The more detail you include in the list, the better. Once you have completed a list of non-physical qualities, your goal will be to subtly qualify your potential mate in order to determine if she fits your ideal. By doing this, we avoid ending up in unhealthy relationships and also save time in the short run. Your list will be constantly evolving and changing as you learn about yourself and your tastes.
In all conversations there is a battle of “frames” and “value”. Those who have higher value qualify those around them to see if they match the qualities they are looking for in others. By qualifying someone, you have already increased your perceived value and as an added bonus, you are now giving girls reasons why you like them for more than just their looks. Genuine Because we have taken the time to create our list of qualities, when we are determining fit with a potential mate, it will be more genuine. THIS IS MASSIVELY IMPORTANT! By being genuine instead of qualifying on things you don’t care about this will massively lever the amount of attraction received. Because you are being genuine, your qualifications will come across much stronger and clearer as the other person can sense this.
Knowing What You Want
Most guys have no idea what they look for in a girl and visa versa, this can really hurt you down the road, especially if you reach the point where you have many options. Knowing what you want will lever your value and put you miles ahead of the other potential suitors. Girls tend to be attracted to alpha males and more specifically, a man who knows what he wants. By qualifying from your list, all of this will be conveyed and your odds of success will increase.
Not Wasting Time
Because we know what we want, we can quickly move past those that do not meet our standards. It is important to be friendly with everyone for social proof purposes.
If the only thing you can change about your interactions with the opposite sex is creating a list and qualifying from it, you will instantly become more attractive.